What is self-love?
It’s the unshakable belief in yourself knowing “I am worth it”.
Many people struggle to find love and a lack of self-love can affect many aspects of your life.
If you believe you are lovable, other people will do the same. Find self-love, so others can love you too!
Self-love and the lack of it comes back to past experiences. Often, we feel guilty for mistakes we’ve made in the past. Or we hold anxiety about what other people think of us.
Why do some of us really lack self-love and struggle to give it to themselves? It’s simply because a lot of people don’t know what it means.
So what does self-love look like and what is self-love?
It’s how you talk to yourself
Do you tell yourself:
I am stupid
I am a mess
I can’t do anything right
Or do you tell yourself:
I am kind and funny
I am wonderful
I am enough and worthy
It’s how you treat yourself
Do you eat a lot of junk food, binge watch Netflix and have late nights?
Or are you nourishing your body with enough water, nutritious and wholesome food, and enough sleep?
It’s what you allow (your boundaries)
Do you agree to anything to please people?
Or do you kindly and firmly say no to things which do not serve you and feel uncomfortable for you?
We are born with an abundance of self-love and confidence. As babies we truly believe that we are worthy and that we deserve to be looked after. We do not doubt our worthiness. However, with time and throughout childhood we become conditioned, forming many beliefs which stick until adulthood and we often fail to challenge these thoughts. Our self-esteem is slowly chipped away as children.
How often did we hear:
Why can’t you be like your brother / sister
Your brother / sister is doing this much better
What is wrong with you
I wanted a boy / girl
You were a mistake
These “implanted” beliefs are limiting and have a massive impact on our self-esteem and our ability to love ourselves.
Stop TRYING to make people love you. YOU love you!
Your worth is not linked to your weight, shape, size, or the number of followers on social media, it's simply who you are. Don’t give away your need to be loved, love yourself!
If you love yourself, it’s much easier for other people to love you too. Self-love and confidence go hand-in-hand and this type of confidence is very attractive!
Praise yourself, every day. Praise builds people up. Don’t forget, the only way to learn is by making mistakes. Allow yourself to make mistakes.
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL. LOVE YOURSELF x
Recommended reads:
Marisa Peer – I am enough
Marisa Peer – Tell yourself a better lie
Marisa Peer – Guided meditation “I am enough Affirmations”